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Hey, in this episode, I'll be talking about how to overcome situations where people have put you down, where people question your goals, where you feel demotivated. How do you come out of that situation? How do you handle and rise up and achieve your goals? How do you do that?
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Hello, this is Chinmai Swamy, your host at the Daily Dynamo. Well, in this episode, but how do you recover?
How do you handle people putting you down to put making this small but this video we're talking about two things. One is how do you handle a situation where you have just been put down like demotivated, told you aren't good enough and criticized.
Next part of the video to talk about how do you actually avoid being in that situation?
So first is when you have to understand, if someone is finding fault in you, someone is telling you you're not good enough. You just have to know that they are in pain
They are in a bad place. They are finding fault in them so much that they can only give out negative that they don't have enough positive in them. Like, you know, if you have positives in you, you will be willing to give it up. But you have too much negative in you.
You only give out negatives.
So that's one thing you need to understand that if someone is telling you you aren't good enough, that's the reason why they are not because they have to what's negative in them, not about others, about themselves.
They feel negative about themselves. So you have to understand where it's coming from.
So how do you handle that?
If someone is this low and they want to pull you down to this level, all you have to do is when they say bad things about you and they discourage you and they find faults in you when they criticize you, all you have to do is.
Say, OK, just acknowledge them so that just acknowledge that, don't resist it, don't resist, just acknowledge that you don't have to agree to that. Just have to acknowledge that at that moment. Remember this strategy is just to handle the situation, just acknowledge them so that they feel they are being listened to, they are acknowledged. So they actually stop talking and they leave you alone this acknowledge them.
And once it's diffuse, once you leave the space, once you let go to your room or you go to another place, you just acknowledge them just so that they feel OK. I've been hurt, that's all.
That's the handling part, the next part is how do you make sure that you're not in this space again?
Well, if you have friends or family members who are friends, usually family members are different situations.
But friends and family, if usually if it's family members, it's distant family and friends very rarely that when they're friends, they do then ask yourself if you were to meet this friend freshly, newly today at a friend's party or friend's place, would you become friends with this person?
If the answer is yes, then continue to have continue to maintain the friendship. If its answer is no, just cut off the friendship, because you might have made this friendship like maybe a year ago or five years ago or ten years ago. You have improved, you have grown, you have changed.
And if in those ten years or in that length of time and you have changed, and if so, you have to ask yourself, am I just keeping this relationship because I don't want to let go then because that person is putting you down, like what person is holding putting negative into your life? Then ask yourself if you were to meet this friend in a party, would you maintain would you become this person's friend knowing everything?
What is right now?
If the answer is yes, then maintain if answer is no, cut off the friendship. And this one handling families is a different matter because you can't cut off if it's your close family especially. The only thing you can do is you can just acknowledge them but never agree to them so that they feel they're hurt. They'll leave you, they'll stop messing with you. You just have to acknowledge them.
If you resist, argue with them, they will feel like they have not hurt and they will come back more. So just acknowledge them.
Don't ever, ever justify them.
Don't ever look.
Tell them why you are doing the right thing. Don't nothing. Just acknowledge. Never agree to that. Stay tuned to your own mission.
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